10 Simple Reasons Men Cheat on Good Women

Why do men still manage to stray despite how wonderful their current partners are? Let us give you some insight into the mind of the cheating man. By Michelle Escultura

Ah, the perpetual burden of knowing that some people, no matter how well they’re treated, will still cheat on their partners. This may come as a surprise, but there are times when even the most awesome, down to earth, intelligent and gorgeous women can still get cheated on. So what gives? What is it that these men want that their seemingly perfect partners can’t provide?
It may be easy to say that a man would be more likely to cheat on a woman who is lazy, uncaring,
abusive, manipulative or just downright boring. Cheating on her is the man’s form of lashing out because of something she doesn’t choose to improve. It’s a common scenario where a man may choose to blame his partner for his own infidelity. But what about those women who have done everything within their power to make sure their man is happy?
Why do men cheat on partners who give them everything?
If you’re baffled out of your mind about how these men find the gall to stray despite having a real keeper as their partner, let us fill you in on the dirty details. Here are some of the most common reasons men give when they cheat on truly wonderful women.
#1 He’s threatened by her. There are women who seem to have it all together. They’ve got great careers. They’re cultured and intelligent. And they know how to please their man. But despite this, the guys they’re with might still cheat simply because he thinks he doesn’t deserve someone so awesome. This is not the woman’s fault at all! It’s the guy’s inability to handle this “threat” that causes him to cheat.
So what does he do? He finds another woman who’s not as great as his girlfriend and uses this other woman to feel like he still has the one up on another person. This gives him a bit of a self-esteem boost because whenever he’s with the other woman, he doesn’t feel the need to try and equal her success.
#2 He thinks she’s doing it, too. Again, this may stem from insecurity and some form of paranoia. The guy cheats on his partner because he can’t seem to believe that someone who seems so perfect would just settle for him. He thinks that his partner must be cheating, and in turn, he does the same to her.
He may think that his relationship is too good to be true. So in his poorly conceived defense, he convinces himself that his partner can’t possibly be faithful to a guy such as him. Therefore, he preemptively cheats on her before she has the chance to do it to him.

#3 He feels ignored. The thing about a well-rounded woman is that she may have other activities that take up the time that the guy thinks he deserves. She may be busy with her career, with taking extra classes, with getting fit, and a bunch of other things that can actually make their relationship thrive.
So while his woman is out there improving herself, the guy is just sitting around and selfishly wallowing on the fact that he’s being neglected. When he’s done wallowing, instead of coming up with productive activities to do while his woman is busy, he goes out and finds another woman who can give him the attention he feels entitled to.
#4 His friends are doing it. Peer pressure can be the worst. A guy who hangs around with other guys who cheat may feel the need to prove himself to his gang. His pals may say that being faithful is boring, and that in order to assert their manliness, they have to sleep with as many women as they can.
The guy, not wanting to be the “loser” of the group, may acquiesce and find himself some girl who would agree to sleep with him. And even if he feels remorse, his pals may make him feel like he’s accomplished something. He gets positive reinforcement by being “one of the cool guys” so he keeps doing it to stay as “cool” as his friends.

#5 The other woman gives him something his girlfriend can’t. There are some guys who just can’t seem to get over this one thing that their girlfriends can’t give them. Time, as mentioned earlier, is one of these things. Other things that his girlfriend may not be able to provide are a shared interest in certain activities or even sexual acts.

Since the guy wants all the perks of being with his girlfriend, he finds another woman who will give him that one thing that his girlfriend can’t. For instance, he may be way more into sports than his girlfriend is. In not being able to get the sports rush with his number one, he goes to his number two to combine the thrill of his favorite sport with some mischief on the side.

#6 He just wants a new experience. There are cases where a guy just wants to check out what else the world has to offer to him in terms of sexual conquests. He feels like the sex with his girlfriend is turning into a boring routine, so he ventures out and looks for something new.
So instead of trying to spice things up with his girl, he goes out and hires a hooker or picks up a willing girl at the bar. These sexual encounters may be purely experimental and involve no feelings. But it’s still considered cheating, and it can still hurt his woman if she finds out.

#7 He can’t say no. The great woman may be dating a nice, polite and sweet guy. He’s always worried about not pleasing other people, and he only ever stands up for himself when he really needs to. Enter a woman who persists in getting what she wants at any cost. In order to not hurt her feelings, he may politely entertain her.
Entertaining the interests of another woman is a subject that’s still up for debate. But if the guy is too spineless to outrightly refuse this seductress, he may end up being swayed into cheating on his girlfriend, usually with a hefty dose of alcohol in the mix. Don’t get us wrong, it’s still his fault for not growing a pair at such a crucial time.
#8 “What she doesn’t know can’t hurt her.” Sometimes the circumstances just fall into place so well that he can cheat without worrying about getting caught. For example, he’s alone on a business trip and he decides to sleep with a girl he met. Afterwards, they sever their ties and pretend that the whole thing didn’t happen.
This scenario can be so tempting for some guys that they just go ahead and do it. The problem with this is just because she doesn’t know, doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. It will hang on his conscience for the rest of his life. But for some guys, the extra weight on their conscience is completely negligible.
#9 He wants to leave her, but he needs a replacement. For whatever reason, this numbskull of a man may choose to leave a woman who’s already a catch. But instead of being a man and just saying what he feels outright, he feels like he needs a safety net to catch him when he jumps out of his relationship. That safety net can come in the form of another woman who’s willing to be his paramour until he gets the guts to leave his current girlfriend.
The problem with this flawed logic is that instead of coming clean and just ending things on good terms, he chooses to ruin it by involving a third party. His fear of not finding a replacement soon enough pushes him to make his two relationships overlap, thus hurting at least one of the two women he’s dating.
#10 He’s just a complete idiot. There are lucky men who attract wonderful women despite not being the usual kind of guy that these women would date. And what does he do with his incredible stroke of luck? He squanders it by cheating on her. Sometimes, this behavior is simply inexplicable. Maybe it’s just a habit. Maybe he’s not clever enough to realize just what a catch she is. And the only way to explain it is by concluding that he’s just dumber than a bag of hammers.
Knowing the reasons why these men cheat obviously won’t make their transgression any more forgivable. It does, however, allow you to anticipate the possible situations where the idea of cheating may enter his mind and push it out of his psyche before he even entertains the thought.

No one deserves to get cheated on, least of all those who are doing their best to take care of their men. In an ideal world, great women will end up with wonderful partners who will cherish and adore them. But let’s face it, sometimes even the beauty gets stuck with a beast.

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The Dating Girl Code All Girls Need to Know

 

Want to be desirable, irresistible, and oh-so-awesome in the eyes of any guy you date? Follow these 16 tips on the dating girl code to do just that. By Gerry Sanders from lp

Every guy wants to date a nice girl.
And yet, most guys walk all over a nice girl when they fall in love with one.
As a guy, I’ve had my share of lovers.
Some girls I’ve pursued harder and some girls I’ve never given a damn about *even though they were absolute stunners!*
If what most people say were to be true, that guys fall for only a girl’s appearance all the time, then every single good looking girl in the world must be experiencing the best relationship in the world, wouldn’t you say?

But that’s just not true, is it?
There are so many great looking girls who are bitter in love and are walked over by guys all the time.
So what then, do guys want?
The dating code for girls
To have the best relationships of your life, you need to understand these dating girl codes. It’ll help you understand a guy’s mind better, and make him fall harder for you.
But before going any further into these dating codes for girls, let’s spend a few lines on what attracts guys to a girl and make her desirable.
Let me get this out first. A guy definitely does fall for a girl’s appearance. But it’s not as simple as it sounds. A guy won’t fall just for her appearance. He’ll fall for a girl’s perceived appearance.
If all other guys think a girl is attractive, he’ll think she’s attractive too.
But then again, a girl’s appearances may give her a second glance, and her attractiveness may draw a guy to her for a date or two. But beyond that, there’s something a lot more crucial that you need to know to keep a guy interested in you.
And that’s the real secret code behind the game of romance and making a guy fall hard for you.
The two phases of romance
To experience a happy relationship with a guy, you need to understand the two phases in romance.
The dating phase. And the relationship phase.
If you’ve been seeing a guy for less than a couple of months and haven’t given the relationship a real name, you’re in the dating phase.
And anything romantic beyond those first couple of months, you’re in the relationship phase.
If you want to experience a perfect relationship with a guy, it’s very important that you play your part well in both these phases.
In the dating phase, you need to make the guy fall for you, and you need to make him fall hard. And the girl code mentioned here will help you do just that.
The dating girl code to be a desirable girl
If you want to attract a guy you’re dating, it’s very important that you understand these girl codes on dating. If you can make a guy realize just how awesome you are right at the beginning of the dating phase, he’ll fall harder for you, be more loyal to you, and will respect you a lot because he’ll truly understand your worth.
Remember, this is the girl code on dating that’s meant to be used for the first few months of the relationship. This is not the girl code for the relationship phase.
Use this code in a new relationship when you’re still testing the water, so you can let the guy know your importance.
Just like guys have the code of chivalry to impress women, girls too need to understand this dating code to impress a guy and experience better relationships.
The 16 dating girl codes all girls need to know
During the first few months when you’re dating a guy you like, keep these 16 codes in mind and follow them. By sticking to this code, you’ll let him see for himself that you’re a catch not worth leaving.
And the best part, understanding these 16 girl codes is the difference between the girls who are desired and the girls who are always walked over!

#1 Don’t misunderstand the art of playing hard to get. Guys may claim they hate girls who can’t commit within the first three dates. But the only girls guys actually desire and fall for madly are the ones who leave men hanging without any reassurances.
Test it yourself. If a nice guy has a huge crush on you and follows you like a lapdog everywhere you go, wouldn’t you treat him carelessly compared to another guy who flirts with you, but doesn’t try hard to please you? That’s called human nature. We always chase what we’re afraid we can’t have.
#2 Don’t fall for the test. At the beginning of a relationship, the guy you date will test the waters. He may avoid calling you for a couple of days or he may ask for favors *sometimes sexual* just to see how compromising and accommodating you are. Don’t fall for it. If you don’t like doing something or don’t want to do something, stand your ground. He’ll respect you more.
#3 You’re not in love. When you start dating a guy, even though you feel like you’ve fallen madly in love with him, don’t say it out just yet. Pretend like you’re old fashioned and wait for him to say that he loves you first. If a guy knows you’re madly in love with him even before he’s fallen for you, he’ll always take you for granted, even if he doesn’t realize it himself!
#4 Don’t change your life. Remember, this new guy you’re dating is only a part of your life. He’s not your whole life. If you place him on a pedestal and devote all your time to him, he’ll treat you just the way you’re behaving, like a slave. Don’t change your life overnight just because you’re dating a guy. Changing all your plans just to accommodate him will only show him how crazy you are about him.
#5 Don’t whine. Don’t beg. The more you whine, the easier you are to read. If he doesn’t call you for a couple of days or if he cancels on a date in the last minute, don’t sulk or let him know you’re upset. Instead, just ignore him for a few days. If he really is trying to impress you and not just sleep with you, the fact that you seem so unbothered will threaten him and even scare him.
#6 The controlling boyfriend. A controlling boyfriend isn’t born that way. He’s created that way by you and the way you behave around him. Put your foot down and do what you want. Don’t stop talking to a guy who’s flirting with you, or don’t stop talking to an ex just because the guy you’re dating says so. By doing that, you’re only letting the guy you’re dating know that he can manipulate you and control you. You’re only dating him, he doesn’t have a say about the way you lead your life, at least not yet
#7 Don’t bend over backwards. If you want to make a guy like you, don’t go all out and try to please him. Most nice girls try really hard to please a guy, and go all the way from calling him over and cooking him a four course meal to spending all weekend shopping for his clothes.
Don’t bend over backwards and try to please him within the first few dates. When you’re so easy to get and so eager to please, the guy you like start to take you for granted even before both of you are in a relationship.
#8 Don’t be predictable. Don’t let him read you like a book. Block yourself emotionally to him so you seem harder to read, which makes you harder to impress, which then makes you a lot more desirable and attractive.
#9 Don’t miss him. Don’t let him know you miss him. By letting a guy you’ve been dating for a month know that you miss him or need him in your life, you’re letting him see that his hook’s caught deep in your heart. That’s his cue to sit back and take it easy, so he can watch you do all the hard work now. He’ll assume he’s done his part in wooing you, and now it’s your turn to please him and keep him happy
#10 Don’t talk about the future together. Unless you’re in a serious relationship where there’s a lot of mutual love and trust, avoid talking about the future together with the guy you’re dating. When you’re in a new relationship, always leave the man guessing about where the relationship is heading. Likewise, avoid talking about your past and your exes too.
#11 Don’t change your status. Don’t give your relationship a name just yet. There are a few girls who want the guy to name the relationship within a few weeks of dating. They can’t wait to change their facebook relationship status to share the news with the world. Don’t be that girl.
#12 Don’t share your life all at once. Communication and understanding each other completely is very important for a successful relationship. But it’s irrelevant when you’re still dating and evaluating each other as dating potentials. If you reveal everything about yourself at once, you’ll start to get boring and predictable within the next few dates.
#13 Don’t have sex. This may sound traditional, but you don’t really need to follow the three date rule before having sex with the guy you’re dating. The longer you wait, the more you’ll build the sexual tension and the attraction. Don’t give in easily, and make the guy work harder. It’ll make him realize you’re not an easy catch, and that would make him take you more seriously.
#14 Self respect. In your pursuit to impress the guy you’re dating, don’t shove your self respect under the mat. Respect yourself and don’t let him take you for granted, either by making you wait for an hour during a date, or when he cancels a date to be with his friends in the last minute.
Ignore his calls for a day or two if you must. When he does come by to your place with a bunch of flowers to apologize to you, pretend like his behavior didn’t bother you at all, and you’ve been so busy you haven’t had time to think about him. Even if he knows you’re lying, your behavior will make him feel insecure and work harder to make it up to you.
#15 Keep yourself busy. Keep him guessing. Don’t be the girl who says “I’m so bored at home and am doing absolutely nothing at all.” Be the girl who’s always doing something. Don’t be easily available to him even if you’re idle. Have a life and keep yourself occupied all the time. The more you have fun in your own life, the more desirable you’ll be and the easier it’ll be for you to treat this guy as a part of your life and not your whole life.
#16 Be a challenge. Men love challenges. Don’t be easy to please and don’t be easy to win over. It’s alright to behave like a high maintenance woman or a brat who throws a hissy fit now and then. By doing that, you’re shaking his confidence up. If he truly likes you and is interested in dating you, he’ll try harder to please you.
And when you do get into a relationship with him after a few months, he’ll love you more and respect you more because he had to work so hard to win you over in the first place.
These dating girl codes may seem harsh, but you need to remember this. Guys value something only when they have to work hard to achieve it. Be nice to him, but don’t bend over backwards to please him, at least not for the first few months.

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Looking for a romantic good night text message to send to your sweetheart?

1) Be respectable
2) Demand your respect. Repercussions play a large role.
3) Start respectable and you will finish respectable.
4) Do not allow yourself to be undermined. Consistency is key.
5) Your word is your bond

Men want to know how to garner respect from women, and here are 5 ways to do so. Even more importantly, this is not exclusive to women, but to society in general.

First and foremost, you must be respectable. You simply cannot demand respect and yet be
unrespectable. That’s like a woman telling you to treat her like a lady and yet she’s whoring it up and has the manners of a drunken sailor. In order to be respected, you must embody traits worthy of respect. If you look and act like a clown, you will have a hard time finding respect because your actions are not congruent with someone who is to be respected.

Secondly, after you are respectable, then you are now worthy of demanding your respect. Think of basketball for example. Michael Jordan, if he only scored 5 points a game, would be unrespectable. But him putting up 30 points a game qualifies him for respect. Once he is qualified, he is able to demand his respect. He is able to demand the ball in clutch situations. He is able to tell others to get in line and they will follow up on it. How does this apply to women? Sometimes you have to demand they respect you or else they won’t. It will be hard to do so if you are a sucker, which is why we have rule number 1. Now, if you allow a woman to get away with all sorts of things with no repercussions, then she will continue to do it, if not escalate the level of disrespect. There has to be repercussions for actions. Would anyone follow the law or respect it if there weren’t repercussions for breaking the law? Thus, there must be repercussions for you being disrespected. This doesn’t mean to act violently. The simple and best way to demand your respect is to remove your presence from those who do not respect you. Do not allot time or attention to those who are disrespectful. In the event of continued disrespect, you must simply be able to walk away, even if you would desire the company of that person. Otherwise, there is no incentive for you to be respected because your own value is lower than the time and attention of the other person.

Thirdly, how you start is how you finish. If you start off allowing a woman you are dealing with to get away with everything, she will have those expectations all throughout her interactions with you. First impressions mean a lot, and if she sees that you are a guy not to be played around with upon first meeting you, it will be much easier from there. However, if you come across like a clown and allow her to have her way with you, you will always have problems with her because her image of you is someone who lets things go and can be walked over. Having a clear set of rules of respect that you’ve communicated from the get-go is highly important.

Next, you cannot allow yourself to be undermined and you must always maintain your respect. This is essentially allowing things that go on that undermine your authority and respect. Some men will allow a woman to paint his fingernails or will allow himself to be put in a position where he is essentially the woman’s homegirl. He goes shopping with her, talks about gossip with her, never tells her when she is doing something wrong. Allowing a woman to draw you into this kind of behavior will lead to your authority being undermined. You will not be looked upon as someone worthy of respect, because as a man, you should never play the role of a woman. Women will also do things such as attempt to change the radio in your car without permission and will actually judge you based upon your reaction. These, among other tests, are actions that women do to undermine your respect. When you have no respect with women, you have nothing.

Lastly, one of the key components of respect is having your actions be congruent with your words. If you say you will do something, it will be done. Whenever you speak, your words are full of wisdom, and if you say something will happen, there is a high likelihood that it will happen. It is very difficult to garner respect if you continually talk about what you’re going to do and it never happens. This is why it is important to carefully monitor what comes out of your mouth. The more promises you make and break, the less respect you will have.

Without respect, you will constantly have problems with people, but especially women. Women are highly rebellious and will even punish men they do not deem worthy of respect. This is why you must be respectable at your core.

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12 Real Signs of True Love in a Relationship

 

True love is the true definition of a perfect romance. But it’s not easy to find. Do you see these 12 signs of true love in your own relationship? By Elizabeth Arthur from lp

True love isn’t felt in a heartbeat or in a second glance.
True love takes time to take shape.
And contrary to popular belief, love at first sight isn’t really love at all.
In fact, love at first sight is nothing but an infatuation.

It’s a strong surge of romantic and sexual emotions that overwhelm you.
Before you wonder what true love is all about and what the signs of true love really are, you need to understand that it’s very important to take things slow in a relationship if you want to ensure its success.
When you first start dating someone or fall for someone at first sight, what you experience isn’t love.
As much as you feel like you’re head over heels in love, you really aren’t.
You’re just experiencing the first stage of love, a small part in the stages of love known as the infatuation stage.

What is true love then?
True love, ironically, can’t be defined.
It’s the kind of love many of us chase after, but few truly find or realize it until it’s too late. So what is true love really?
True love is the kind of love and affection you have for someone that isn’t bound by the laws of human behavior. Human behavior is simple to understand. When someone hurts you, you get angry with them. When someone gets lucky or gets a better job, you get jealous of them. And when someone shatters your ego or humiliates you, you want your revenge. This is human behavior, because these traits are engrained within us.
But when you experience true love with someone, your primal instincts and behavior change only towards this person. True love transcends typical human behavior. It makes you a better human being towards a special someone.
When does one experience true love?
True love takes time to bloom. What you experience in the first year or so of a relationship is infatuation and sexual attraction.
As the bursts of infatuation start to fade with the first few arguments and the first few misunderstandings, that’s when love starts to enter the picture. And this is where most couples start to drift away emotionally, or even end up breaking up because of incompatibilities.
If you’re in a relationship where both of you truly understand each other and feel compatible with each other, and most importantly, love each other, chances are, you’re experiencing true love already.
Experiencing true love in your life
Is true love a once in a lifetime experience? Not really. You can experience them many times over, and with many people at the same time. You can experience true love with your spouse or your lover, your children and any other person you’re attached to in your life.
But true love too, can fade with time. For most of us, our first love is the first time we would have experienced the purest form of true love. We aren’t afraid to let this special someone into our heart and we aren’t afraid to experience heartbreak because we still don’t know what heartbreak feels like. We’re fearless in love and we love passionately with all our heart
But when the first romance dies, the true love we had for our first partner too eventually fades, even if it takes years and several new relationships to overcome. And as we enter more relationships, most of us split into two groups. One that believes in true romantic love and the other group that convinces itself that true love doesn’t exist. The kind of relationships you’ve had in your lifetime can play a big part in your understanding of, and expectations from, true love.
And if you’re wondering whether true love and romantic love are the same, it really isn’t, even though we almost always associate true love with romantic love. True love is love in its purest form, while romantic love needs sexual attraction to stay alive.
True love can’t be forced
True love has to be experienced naturally and wholeheartedly. You can’t fake true love no matter how hard you try. If a couple fails to pass the test of compatibility in their infatuation stage, it’s pretty hard for both of them to ever experience true love.
On the other hand, if both partners can understand each other and relate to each other, they’ll start to love each other’s company and start to become inseparable. And eventually, this bond will turn into a pure and selfless love that we call true love.
The 12 signs of true love in a perfect romance
True love may be hard to define, but the signs to read true love can be clearly seen in every perfect loving relationship.
If you’re in a relationship and want to know if you’re experiencing the purest form of love, use these 12 signs of true love to find out for yourself.

#1 Give and take in love. You give to the relationship wholeheartedly, without any desire or expectations of getting something back in return from your partner to justify your actions.
#2 Pure happiness. Just watching this special person smile or laugh out loud fills you with intense happiness, even if you’re suffering or having a hard day.
#3 Pain and anger. You get terribly hurt when your lover upsets you, but their actions never anger you. You may get annoyed or frustrated now and then momentarily, but you just can’t stay mad at them for long because staying mad or giving them the silent treatment hurts you more.
#4 Sacrifices. You make sacrifices for their happiness or wellbeing, even if they may never realize it.
#5 The right effort. You go to great lengths and make an effort to improve the relationship, and play a conscious part in trying to please your partner and make them feel loved and special.
#6 You can’t ever hurt them. When you’re truly in love with someone, you can’t even imagine hurting them, emotionally or physically. Payback is a strong human instinct, but true love makes you completely selfless.
#7 You keep your promises. When you make a promise to them, you stick to your word even if this person will never find out if you broke their promise. When you experience true love, your moral conscience becomes very strong when it comes to this one special person.
#8 We. In a perfect relationship, it’s good to have your own space to grow as individuals. But at the same time, if you truly love your partner, you’d see them as a part of your life. When you think of your future, you can’t help but see them by your side.
#9 You share their burden. And you do that even if you don’t really have to. You can’t bear to see this special someone suffering. If they’re dealing with some issue, you’re always willing to offer them a helping hand even when you have your own difficulties to look into.
#10 Pride and jealousy. You beam with pride when they achieve something, even if it’s the same thing you failed at. You may get jealous of a friend who outdid you, but when you love someone, jealousy never enters the picture.
#11 Suffering. You’d be willing to suffer, just to see them happy.
#12 Their perspective. Everything you do, you keep your lover in mind and think from their perspective, be it about planning a surprise party or hanging out with your own friends after work. You don’t ever want to hurt your lover, so you always think from their point of view before making any decision that involves them in any way.
Are you experiencing true love?
If you’re in a relationship and aren’t experiencing these true love signs, don’t fret. Perhaps, your relationship hasn’t reached the state of emotional maturity that surpasses physical attraction or the stage of infatuation.
Take your time and test the waters. You can’t fall in love with someone by forcing yourself into the relationship. If it’s not working out, try to understand each other better. And if nothing you do can bring happiness back into love, perhaps both of you would be better off dating other people
But at the same time, if both of you are already happy in the relationship, don’t try to change anything about it. Sometimes, selfless and unconditional love takes time to materialize. Remember, you can’t push yourself into the next stage in love unless both of you are ready for it.
As long as your lover and you are happy and understand each other, you’re already experiencing the perfect kind of love!

Use these 12 signs of true love to understand what true selfless love really means. And even if you’re not there yet, don’t worry about it. It’s only a matter of time before a happy romance goes the true love way!

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8 Things “Nice Guys” Who Can’t Get Girls Need To Know

1) Stop saying you’re the nice guy who finishes last.

You moan, whine, and lament about how nice guys finish last as if it’s a good thing. You’re crying for attention. You want me to reply, “Hey, being a nice person is a good thing! The right one will come along!” to give you hope. But both you and I know you’re just trying to validate your insecurities as somebody who really wants a girl but has no clue about how to get one. You’re NOT going to get a girl if you’re constantly victimizing yourself as the nice guy who accepts the idea that you have to finish last. You want a girl? Aim for first place.

2) Being nice doesn’t mean you have to be weak.

To elaborate the first point, being nice doesn’t mean you have to be weak. Stop saying “yes” when deep down the answer is “no.” Stop getting out of your way to do favors for people who won’t appreciate you. Stop waiting two hours for a girl who is perpetually late. Stop backing down and start standing up for yourself. A girl will never fall for somebody who is only nice. She needs to respect you, too.

3) Unless she’s already your girlfriend, you don’t have to be loyal.

I have so many friends who after taking an interest in a girl are like, “Oh since I like her, I won’t look at other girls. I have to show her I’m someone who’s not playful.” The worst part? They barely know her at all. Expand your choices already. It’s not a matter of loyalty. It’s about opening up and making friends. You’re only limiting yourself if you think you need to focus fully on a single girl whom you barely know. You’re missing out on other potential relationships when you think this way.

4) Stop thinking she’s an angel when you hardly know her.

Nice guys tend to assume the girls they like are perfect angels with zero flaws, which is one reason why they think they have to be loyal at the get-go. She’s not an angel. She’s not perfect. She has flaws. For all we know, she’s seeing other guys at the same time and treating you like some reserve while she tells her boyfriend, “Oh, him? Nah. He buys nice things for me, though.” The pedestal you put her on would crumble if you find out something gross about her.

5) Stop being so fearful over the little things.

“Should I add her on Facebook? What if she thinks I’m a stalker?”
“Should I follow her on Instagram? What if she doesn’t follow me back?”
“Should I like her picture? Is that too desperate?”
For fuck’s sake, these little minute details don’t matter! You must be dreaming if little things such as these can make or break your chances of getting her. If you’re so afraid of little things like this, how are you going to be ready for the challenges a real relationship brings?

6) You can learn a thing or two from douchebags.

The douchebags, assholes, or players you’ve condemned? They’re getting girls. You’re not. You can learn something from them and you’ll be surprised at the values and principles they uphold to be the men they are today. For one thing, know that most “bad boys” you see today were once like you. Then their hearts got broken enough times to know that they had to make a change.

7) Virgin nice guys, please get it done and over with.

The reason why you nice guys are so afraid of things is that you don’t know what to expect. Then you come up with excuses to justify your fear such as, “Oh, I gotta be nice. I can’t treat her like an object.” Get some sex and have it already. Demystify it. Start believing that sex is not that big a deal. The more something is a mystery to you, the more power it has over you. Time to get some knowledge.

8) It only always starts with friendship.

So stop overthinking it. She’s not your potential girlfriend. She’s not someone you’re going to marry. And you shouldn’t have to worry if she’s going to care that you play too much World of Warcraft. You’re only friends on the first date. So ease up, be confident, and get to know each other as equals.

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The health benefits of being in love

Why being in love is good for you
Boxes of chocolates, lavish meals out and those late night fights; there certainly is an unhealthy side to love, but finding that special someone can bring all kinds of health benefits too.

Iif you’ve been considering ditching your partner, or are just feeling a little harassed by love, check out some of these relationship perks which might just remind you that being in love can be good for your health...

Love lowers risk of alcohol abuse
You may be footing a bigger weekly wine bill for all of those cosy nights in, but research has shown that you are less likely to abuse or depend upon alcohol if you are in a relationship. In the study,
only four per cent of people who had been in a relationship for between two and four years misused alcohol; whilst only three per cent of those who had been in a relationship for more than five years reported abusing alcohol. However, 12 per cent of the participants who were not in a relationship in their 30’s were described as misusing alcohol and 13.5 per cent of people who had not been in a relationship for more than two years treated alcohol in an unhealthy way.

Love keeps us young
We all know that being in love and making love are two very different scenarios and apparently so does Mother Nature. Being in love is often very trying and can age us; however, research suggests that making love keeps us young. A study conducted by researchers at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital in Scotland found that those women who have sex four or more times a week look 10 years younger than their actual age. Consultant neuropsychologist Dr David Weeks said that loving couples not only look after their bodies more, but that they also benefit from the physical and emotional effects of sex. So, next time you reach for your anti-ageing cream, maybe opt for the baby oil instead?

Love: good for women, bad for men?
When you think of a married man, do you think of the grumpy, beaten-down stereotype? If you do, then don’t worry, apparently there’s some truth behind this well-worn notion. The English Longitudinal Study of Ageing found that women report a higher quality of life when they are in a relationship, but their husbands or partners report having a significantly lower quality of life. However, although it is possible that relationships fulfill the needs of women more than men, compared to single people, those in a relationship are still happier overall. In a separate study 40 per cent of married couples said they were happy, compared to only 25 per cent of single people.



Love improves our mental health
Love has many physical benefits, but it would seem that men and women who are in a relationship get lots of mental health benefits too. In New Zealand a team at the University of Otago examined 1,000 people. They found that people who had been in a relationship for longer than five years were less likely to be depressed and attempt suicide. Other studies have found similar findings, stating that married people report lower levels of depression and distress. Apparently married men are also half as likely to commit suicide as single men, and one third as likely as divorced men. Perhaps the phrase “you’re driving me crazy” should no longer be used in reference to your partner?


Love gives us more birthdays
Sadly, being in love does not mean you get to have more than one birthday a year. However, it does mean that you get to see more of them. The mortality rates for single males aged between 30 and 59 are two and half times higher than their non-single counterparts! Don’t gloat too much though girls. Single women also face a 23 percent higher mortality rate than those who are married. Researchers suggest that this difference in longevity is due to the fact that most single people have poorer health benefits, a lower income and are socially isolated. Being supported and connected to others is an essential part of keeping healthy.

Love heals the heart
Perhaps it’s no coincidence that love is often depicted using a heart shape. A recent study by researchers at the University of Rochester in New York found that those in a happy relationship are three times more likely to survive heart surgery. The researchers reported that a good marriage can be as beneficial to the heart as quitting smoking, staying at a healthy weight and reducing high blood pressure. Similar findings were found by those at the University of North Carolina and a study in Human Communication Research. They both found that being in love and expressing your emotions had a positive impact on cholesterol.

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10 reasons women fall out of love

10 reasons women fall out of love
Understanding why she broke up with you
Your girlfriend broke your heart and now you’re left picking up the pieces of your old relationship. One way to help heal your heart and ensure your next relationship is a success is to figure out why she may have broken up with you. Here we show you 10 reasons why women fall out of love.


Her family did not like you
For women, other people’s opinions matter, and although she might have been pleased that her family did not like her boyfriend when she was a teenager, now she’s grown up she values their thoughts on the guys she dates. If her family, or even her friends, did not like you then this may have influenced the way she felt about you.

She did not feel like a priority

If you missed her birthday or always put your sports team in front of your girlfriend and her needs then chances are she fell out of love because she felt neglected. When in a relationship everyone likes to feel appreciated, so next time you date a girl make sure you’re ready to commit and make her a priority before you get serious.

There was a breakdown in trust
We’ve all heard it a million times, but trust really is the foundation to a strong relationship. If the trust in your relationship was broken for whatever reason, then this will have almost certainly contributed to your break up in some form. To avoid making the same mistake again make sure you work hard towards protecting the trust in your next relationship.

You don’t have a lot to offer
Although it sounds very old-fashioned, studies have found that women still rate wealth and status as being important when it comes to dating. If you don’t have your life together and you’re out of work or still living with your parents, then she might have fallen out of love with you because you couldn’t offer her the things she wanted in life.

You both grew apart
Time can do funny things to people and the person you dated five years ago may not be the same person you were dating one month ago. Sometime these changes that are caused by time can mean that a couple are no longer compatible, and this might have been the reason why she broke up with you.

She wants a different life
If you’ve been dating for some time, chances are you’ve built a life together; whether that’s a metropolitan life based around work and post-work cocktails, or a life spent adventuring and trekking around the world. If your girlfriend changes her mind and decides she wants a different life then this might have been why she broke up with you.

You had no fun together
Fun is something a lot of long-term couples lack in their relationships. If you both started to spend most of your evenings sat in front of the TV and spent your weekends doing DIY and food shopping, then she might have forgotten how good you are to be around.

You didn’t make her feel special
In a relationship everyone needs to feel loved, whether you’re a woman or a man. If you didn’t make your girlfriend feel special or loved then she might have fallen out of love with you. Next time you are in a relationship remember that love is a verb and that you need to take action if you don’t want to end up broken hearted again.

You wanted different things
Some people want babies, some people want expensive cars and others just want to have a quiet life. A lot of relationships end when one person has a life plan that does not match up to their partner’s. If this sounds familiar and you both wanted different things from life then this may have been one reason why she stopped loving you.

You had a stressful time
Life is full of stressful situations and after a particular scarring event some couples prefer to call it a day. If you both experienced a death, an illness or a family breakdown whilst together then your girlfriend may have broken up with you because that stressful event damaged your relationship and you both couldn’t move past the difficulty you witnessed together

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How To Make Your Girlfriend Love You More

If you’re worried that the sparks are dying down, or that your girlfriend is just not feeling it anymore, then you’ve got to work harder to win her over and to keep her by your side. If your relationship just isn’t meant to be, then it’s one thing, but if you really love your girlfriend and can’t imagine life without her, then you have to work on making her feel loved, being a more thoughtful and attentive boyfriend, and on keeping your flame alive. If you want to know how to get your girlfriend to love you more, see Step 1 to get started
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 Part One of Three: Making Her Feel Special
1 Compliment her more. If you want to get your girlfriend’s attention, then you have to make her see that you really do care about her. While superficial compliments about her appearance or
compliments that are only calculated to make her like you won’t get you very far, giving her a meaningful compliment at the right time can show her that you really care. If you’re worried about getting her to love you more, then chances are it’s because she’s not feeling the love back, so let her know you care by telling her what makes her so special. You can compliment an impressive aspect of her personality. You can say something like, “It’s really awesome that you can strike up a conversation with almost anyone. How do you do that?” Or, “You’re such a hard worker. I wish I could study for as long as you could.” You should pay attention to her and notice when she’s wearing something new or when she got a new haircut. Say, “I love that new sweater on you. It really brings out your eyes,” and she’ll be impressed that you’re paying attention.

 2 Do favors for her. Another way to make your girlfriend feel special and to win her over is to do some favors for her to show her you care. This could mean bringing her lunch when she’s had a busy day, giving her a ride when she needs it, or helping her clean up her place after a party. Just taking the time to make her life a little easier will make her appreciate you more. Of course, you don’t want to be her puppy dog and make her think she can take advantage of you, but you should help her out when you can, provided she does the same for you. She may protest when you ask her if she needs help, but if you see that she really does need some help from you, you should help her out as much as you can.

 3 Be supportive of her goals and interests. If you want to make your girlfriend feel special, then you can’t just treat her like arm candy. You have to care about the things she cares about and want her to succeed. If she’s really into soccer, you should go to her games when you can. If she’s trying to find a new job, you can help her by setting up a mock interview. Let her see that you want her to do well and care about the things that matter to her, and she’ll be touched by how thoughtful you are. If she’s upset, you should be there to comfort her and to talk about it when she’s ready to talk. Don’t get frustrated with her when she’s not in a good mood because she’s had a personal disappointment. Cheer her on if she has a big day coming up. Wish her luck and tell her you’ll be thinking of her.

4 Ask her questions about her life. You don’t want your girlfriend to get bored or to think you don’t really care about her. As you open up to each other, you should ask her questions about her life, from asking about her childhood to her relationships with her friends and parents. You should also ask her about her goals for the future or about what she has coming up in the week. Show her that you care about who she is as a person and about how she’s growing. Let her see that you’re genuinely interested in who she is, and that you’re not just asking to sound polite. Make eye contact and really give your full attention when she tells you about herself. Ask her to talk more about her hobbies and interests, even if you don’t really know a lot about them.

 5 Check in to see how her day is going. If you want her to see that you care, then you should check in with her at least once a day, whether you call or text her, to see how her day is going. Make her see that when you’re not together, she’s still on your mind, and she’ll be touched. You can check in after you know she’s had something important happen, whether it’s a major exam or a soccer game. Let her see that you care about her even when you’re miles apart. Of course, you shouldn’t get obsessive and check in with her every five minutes, or that will be a major turn-off. And if she’s out with her girlfriends, give her a break instead of checking in every chance you get, or she’ll think that you’re jealous and possessive.
 6 Be affectionate. It’s true that most guys don’t love holding hands or major PDA. But that doesn’t mean you can’t show her some love and affection when you’re together, whether you’re putting your arm around her, stroking her hair, or putting a hand on her arm or knee when you’re talking. Just a bit of physical affection can go a long way, showing her that you really like being around her. You may see that she’s being distant because she feels like you don’t care enough, and giving her some affection is a great way to change that. You don’t have to hold hands all the time, but holding her hand every once in a while is a great way to let her know you care. If you’re at the movies, give her hand a squeeze once or twice. You don’t have to kiss in public, but giving her a kiss when you see her and when you say goodbye will make her see that you care.

 7 Take the time to really listen to her. Most people could stand to brush up on their listening skills, and many boys aren’t exactly known for being amazing listeners. The next time she talks to you, you should really absorb every word, put away all distractions, and look into her eyes. Don’t interrupt her or try to solve her problems, and work on simply being there for her and taking the time to understand what she’s telling you. This will make her see that you really do care about her. Once she’s done talking, ask her more questions to see how she’s feeling. If she’s asking for advice, make sure you have all the facts before you give it to her. Put away your phone when she’s trying to tell you something. You’ll drive her crazy if you keep checking your phone when she’s trying to have an important conversation.

 Part Two of Three: Being a Better Boyfriend
1 Be a gentleman. If you want to be a better boyfriend to your girlfriend, then you have to work on being more of a gentleman. This doesn’t mean you have to turn into Cary Grant or pick her up in a horse-drawn carriage, but it does mean that you should try to treat her with a bit more attention and respect. Open doors for her, whether she’s getting into your car or walking into a restaurant. Pull out her chair before she sits down. Give her your coat if she’s cold and avoid being overly vulgar in her presence. Don’t worry: being a gentleman doesn’t mean acting phony or over the top. Just treating your girlfriend with more care and attention will make her see that you’re a true gentleman.

 2 Improve your communication. Many boyfriends are notoriously bad at communicating their needs. If you want to be a better boyfriend, then you have to work on being able to honestly but kindly tell your girlfriend what you’re feeling, how to have a conversation without getting angry, and how to learn to compromise instead of being upset when you don’t get what you want. If you develop stronger communication skills, your relationship will flourish. When your girlfriend is upset, you should work on understanding what she’s really angry about and try to address her concerns; if she’s mad at you for being late for a date, for example, it may mean that she’s mad because she feels like you don’t put enough effort into the relationship. Timing is also important if you want to have a serious conversation. If you want to have a big talk with your girlfriend, try to pick a time when she won’t be too tired or distracted to have the conversation.

 3 Give her your time. If you want to be a better boyfriend, then you have to make yourself more available to your girlfriend. This doesn’t mean you should be free 24/7 and have to bend to her will at any given moment, but it does mean that you should make enough time to keep your relationship going strong, from time to weekly date nights to time to talk on the phone or watch a movie with her. If you’re never around or always prefer hanging out with your buddies instead of her, she’s likely to feel neglected. That said, it could be possible that she’s losing that loving feeling because you’re starting to feel too dependable, like you’re always around. Make sure that you continue to have your own life, your solo time with your friends, and time to pursue your own hobbies and interests. Though you want to make time for her, you also want her to see that you’re an interesting and dynamic person.

4 Respect her independence. While making time for your girlfriend is important, so is respecting her own time and space. Let her hang out with her girlfriends without being jealous or calling her every five minutes; avoid trying to do every single thing she likes, from running to volunteering, right along with her. Let her do her own thing and applaud her for it while knowing when she wants you to come along. You don’t want her to feel smothered or like you don’t like it when she takes two steps away from you. If you smother her, she’ll feel like you don’t trust her or have faith in the relationship. If you’re comfortable enough to let her do her own thing or hang out with her friends, then she’ll feel like you’re confident with who you are what you two have.

 5 Be nice to her friends and family. Her friends and family are important, and may be the key to her heart. Don’t just brush them off or make superficial small talk without taking the time to really get to know them. Ask them how they are, share something about yourself, and show that you really care about them. Even if you’re only doing it because you care about your girlfriend, it’ll make a big difference, and they’ll be more likely to sing your high praises when she talks about you. If your girlfriend invites you to hang out with her friends, you should accept from time to time, even if you don’t have the greatest time ever. This will show her that you really do care and are making an effort.
 Part Three of Three: Bringing More Excitement to Your Relationship
 1 Do new things together. If you want to keep your love going strong, then you have to find new interests to pursue together. This could be watching every Hitchcock movie ever made, taking tennis lessons together, or getting into hiking. Whatever it is, you should find something that just the two of you can do together and which reminds you of your relationship. If you just keep on doing the same old things, the excitement is bound to fade. You can take a hip hop, karate, or art class together, if that’s your thing. Of course, you shouldn’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.

 2 Mix up your dates. Though dinner and a movie is nice every once in a while, you should try to keep things exciting by mixing it up once in a while. Instead of going out to dinner, invite your girlfriend over and cook for her. Instead of seeing a movie, take a sunset hike and have a picnic. Have a date night on a random Tuesday instead of on the same old Friday night, just to get your blood flowing. Set up an appointment to rock climbing at a gym. Take a kickboxing class together. Doing a form of exercise together can be very sexy.

 3 Hang out with other people. Though spending time together is the best way to keep your relationship going strong, if your girlfriend is the only person you hang out with, things are bound to go south. Hang out with a group of mutual friends, each other’s friends, or family from time to time, or even make an effort to make new friends together, so you never run out of things to do and always keep your relationship feeling fresh. Hanging out in groups as well as alone can help you appreciate each other on a whole new level. Even going on double dates can add a fun new layer to your relationship.

4 Be spontaneous. Though it’s great to plan a new thing to do together or to plan an exciting date night, there’s something to be said for being spontaneous, too. If you’re driving by a new restaurant that looks cool, you should stop by and see if they have an open table. If you’re suddenly bored on a Saturday afternoon, go on a road trip or drive to the beach without planning every second of the day. Just having the option to up and run and do something completely unexpected can keep your relationship exciting. Is there something that you and your girlfriend have always said you’ve wanted to do, but you haven’t had the chance to try it? What better time than now?

 5 Play hard to get. Though it’s important to show your girlfriend how much you care and to be open and honest with her, you shouldn’t put all of your cards on the table unless you want her to get complacent. Don’t pick up the phone the second she calls, have other plans in your social calendar, and don’t smother her with your love while letting her know that you care. If you play hard to get and leave her to chase you, she’ll be much more interested than if she knows she has you wrapped around her little finger. If she doesn’t think you’re 100% available whenever she wants to hang out with you, she’ll cherish your time together more.

 Tips
 For romantic dates do: A midnight picnic A beach trip at dark A fancy restaurant
 Tell her you love her every day, and hug her when you do so.
 For comfy dates do: Home movie theater Home dinner for 2 Bowling
 For fun dates do: Running around a park taking pics with random people Picnic at the beach Chase a big flock of pigeons or seagulls with an umbrella

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10 Definitive Ways To Tell You’re In Love WithThe Right Someone

Falling in love is one of the most exciting, rewarding and scariest things you could ever do. Once you’re in love with someone, it’s hard to remember how you lived without him or her. Of course, you were alive before you met this person, but you really didn’t start “living” until the two of you met. I remember when I first fell in love with my girlfriend; it was a very scary feeling, as I had managed to elude love for the entirety of my life before her. I specifically remember the transition from when I liked Vanessa to when I began to love her. Vanessa went from being someone who made me smile to being the greatest catalyst of the happiness and joy in my life. She went from a gorgeous girl I met to the most beautiful girl I know. She went from my crush to the love of my life. Everyone experiences love differently, and at different times. Even the meaning of love is extremely subjective, but I say for certain that anyone who’s experienced it knows it’s the best feeling ever. Here are 10 ways to know if you might be in love — rather than in like — with someone:


1. The best part of your day As Childish Gambino said, “When I’m alone, I’d rather be with you.” Seeing my girlfriend is always the highlight of my day. If you really love someone, you never truly get tired of him or her. No matter how great your day might be going, your special person will make it better. When you just like someone, he or she might make your day better, but probably isn’t the best part.

2. The first person you think about Your love will be the first person you think about when you wake up and the last person you think about before you go to sleep. When something good happens to you, this is the first person you want to tell. When something bad happens to you, you look to this person for support.

 3. Prioritize above your own needs Love is selfless. I was the most important person in my world until I met my girlfriend. Once I fell in love with her, her needs became much more important than my own. This is just how love is. Your needs always seem trivial in comparison to your significant other’s needs.
 4. You’d do anything If I tried to construct a list of things I wouldn’t do for my girlfriend, the list would be pretty empty. When you’re in love with someone, you do whatever you can to make the person happy. When you like someone, you may feel like there is a lot you would do for the person, but you have your limits. True love knows no limits.

 5. You are never afraid to express your feelings in public I have this semi-bad habit of telling the world how in love I am with my girlfriend. When you’re truly in love, you want everyone to know. You are not bashful about your feelings by any means. When you like someone, there is a lot of holding back on how you feel.

 6. You love the imperfections My girlfriend is the most beautiful girl I know, but she does have some imperfections. But, to me, they’re not imperfections — they’re unique qualities and things I love. When I tease her about them, she thinks I am making fun of her, but I am truly just admiring them. Love is the ability to know and accept someone’s faults. You may know the imperfections of a person you like, but having the capacity to embrace them likely won’t happen unless you fall in love.

 7. You think long-term When you’re in love with someone, it’s hard to imagine a future without the person in it. For this reason, you will think long-term about how you can build a life with this person. You won’t give in to short-term temptations that might mess up your long-term goals. When you just like someone, thinking long-term can be pretty scary.

 8. You become a better person No one is perfect; we all have room for improvement. But, being in love will force you to work on these things. You want to become the best version of yourself for the person you love. I am a better person now than I was before I met my girlfriend.

 9. Your feelings are unconditional When you love someone unconditionally, it means that your love knows no conditions and is absolute. I don’t actually like the term “unconditional love” because I think it’s redundant — I believe all true love is unconditional. When you like someone, your feelings change depending on the condition.

 10. Your love is your best friend Sometime along the way, my girlfriend became my best friend. I believe this to be true for most people who fall in love. Your significant other becomes your partner in crime. You feel like, together, you can take on the world

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How to Develop a Close Relationship with Someone you just met

Whether you're looking to start a new friendship, business relationship, or romantic relationship, learning how to develop a close relation with someone new can be challenging.Luckily, it's actually very, very easy to do.

1.
Figure Out Who You Want to Build a Relationship With
2.
Start the Conversation -- whether in a group setting or one-on-one -- on a light-hearted, surface level note.When you first meet someone, you want the interaction to be:Jokes and interesting stories are the best. Remember the old adage, "Be Interested, and Be Interesting."

* Positive
* Interesting
* Fun
3.
Isolate.
* It is hard to develop a deep relationship in a group. Find a way to logistically move the person you want to build a relationship with into a one-on-one setting.
* You can do this the same day you meet them or by scheduling a follow up.
4.
Go Deeper.
* Ask F.O.R.D. questions.
* F - Family
* O - Occupation
* R - Recreation
* D - Dreams
5.
Go Even Deeper - Share Past Victories and Past Pain.
* Childhood
* Values
* Fears and Insecurities
* Past Crisis
6.
Validate.
* Let the person you are with know that you are exactly like them.
* "What makes you cool is that you value most people feel like we should value . I'm the same way and it's rare for me to meet someone who feels the same way as me. You're awesome!
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* Recognize their strengths. Make sure you're being authentic.
* "Has anybody ever told you that you are .
* The key here is that everyone has qualities about themselves that they pride themselves on. 99% of people feel that these qualities are under-recognized and under-appreciated.


Tips

* Be authentic. Nobody likes a fake.
* Every time you ask them a question, share part of your story with them.
* Be vulnerable, but not whiny. Vulnerability is the first thing we look for in others and the last thing we want to share of ourselves. Learn to be emotionally honest. But don't stay on negativity; always move back to a positive topic.

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5 secrets SHE’ll never tell you .. GUYS HAVE TO READ THIS

Things your girlfriend will never tell you
So, your mother used to tell you that little girls were made of sugar and spice and all things nice; well boys, we’re sorry to say that your mother was wrong. Even if you think your girlfriend is the purest of women, everyone keeps secrets and your girlfriend isn’t exempt. To find out what your girlfriend will never tell you, check out the list below.


Secret she’ll never tell you: Money matters
Okay, we didn’t miss the memo and yes we do know that it’s the 21st century, but according to studies women do like men who have money. One study found that 64 per cent of women would still prefer their men to earn more than them. A study from the British Journal of Psychology confirms that women are attracted to men who drive expensive cars.



If you’re thinking that your girl doesn’t want a man with money and that she’s happy earning all the cash whilst you sit on the couch catching up with trash TV, think again; she’ll never tell you that she wants you to be rich because it’s bad taste, so you’ll never know the truth.

Secret she’ll never tell you: She was flirting
Flirting is something we all do, but your girlfriend seems to flirt with everyone and anything. So, what should you do? Confront her and kick up a fuss? Chances are, she’ll just say she was being friendly. Although seeing your girl flirt with other men is wounding, scientists say that women flirt to get what they want in life and you could benefit from their fluttering eyes as well.

Researchers from the University of California and the London School of Economics conducted studies into female charm and found that flirting makes men feel good so that women can get what they want. The study suggests women who flirt get around 20 per cent off of the original price of the car they were buying.

Secret she’ll never tell you: She wants a white wedding
When you were dating, you both shared the same common fear of big, overindulgent, frivolous white weddings. Yet, since you’ve popped the question your girl seems to have changed. All she can think about is walking down that aisle and rather than the quirky, mellow wedding you both discussed in your dating days, you’re getting a princess-themed ceremony at a big, expensive country club.

Even if your girl thinks she doesn’t want a big, white wedding, secretly, under all of her indie, cool charm, she does. It’s as if the white dress and bank-breaking décor is hardwired into every girl’s brains and it’s practically going against nature to ask for a low-key do.

Secret she’ll never tell you: Sex is important
Do you constantly feel like you have to beg for sex? Do you find yourself doing chores just to get her into bed? You are not alone my friend. Researchers found that men who did chores around the house got 50 per cent more sex than those who didn’t. Could it be that because women have less desire to have sex than us guys that they are using sex as a reward for chores?

Maybe, but gentlemen, a study undertaken by Kinsey Institution found that women felt being sexually satisfied was a priority when it came to being happy in a long-term relationship. So, putting these two studies together means that women do care about sex and that maybe they’re just telling us they don’t need it so that we do the dishes; just putting it out there.

Secret she’ll never tell you: That she doesn’t orgasm
It’s been drummed into girls that telling you she doesn’t orgasm when you have sex with her will shatter you. Yet 16 per cent of women are thought to never achieve orgasms, whilst 26 per cent of women reported faking an orgasm during sex in a study of 50,000 women from the US, Australia and the UK.

Yet, in the midst of wild, hot sex how can you tell that she’s faking it? Well, like us, when women come they are pretty uninhibited and just go with it. If you look at your girl and she seems pretty controlled then she might be faking. If you think she might be faking, ask her what she’d like you to do to her in bed and ask her for a little guidance.

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Pics: Bradley Cooper passionately kisses Irina Shayk as he drops her off

I like these two together. And it looks like Bradley Cooper is very smitten. The 40 year old actor was photographed passionately kissing his new supermodel girlfriend, Irina Shayk, 29, in a parking lot as he dropped her off at her hotel in London yesterday Monday. The loved up couple then shared an intimate chatbefore they parted ways and she headed into the building. More pics after the cut...

 

 Photo credit: Xposurephoto

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Tragic story! Couple die in car accident just two months after their wedding

Mr and Mrs Timothy Terson got married March 6th, 2015 and died just two months later on May 6th in a fatal car accident along Mkar-Ameladu road, Gboko. Timothy died on the spot, while his wife, Erdoo died two days later on May 8th at Benue state University teaching hospital, Makurdi.

Like their deaths weren't tragic enough, Timothy's father, Mr. Tersen, also died in accident on his way to Gboko from Wannune, Tarka LGA after seeing his in-laws for the couple's burial arrangements

Now the families will be burying three people. Sad! May your souls rest in peace, Amen!

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Dear GF readers; my husband is constantly comparing me with his exes

From a female GF reader

I am married to a man who constantly compares me with his ex girlfriend to my face!! Each time there is a little misunderstanding he constantly reminds me of how well his ex-girlfriend understood him and treats him. What does this mean and how do I deal with this? I am confused!! I have told him severally how well I hated it and he doesn't see a big deal in it, he doesn't even care how I feel about it. How do I get him to stop it?

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